The Signs of A Bullied Child

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Bullying is everywhere. On the streets of manila, international schools, or state schools. No child is safe from it, but as parents, you have to be vigilant and look out for your children.

What is bullying?

Bullying is repeated aggressive behavior among school children. It involves one or several children believing they have power over another. This imbalance of power can often be perceived if one has more physical strength over another, or knowledge of embarrassing information, or their popularity, which can be used to control others. It doesn’t only include threats, but also verbal and physical attack, and spreading lies and rumors, which can also cause emotional trauma. Other types of bullying can be name-calling, humiliating them in public, taunting and teasing, excluding them from groups, and getting physical such as hitting, pushing, and kicking them, breaking their things, and generally being mean or rude.

What are the signs?

Children might not ask you for help if they’re being bullied. but even though they don’t tell you that someone at school is terrorizing them, there are signs that may warn you about this problem. Do be aware, however, that not all children exhibit these red flags.
·         Injuries your child cannot explain
o   Such as bruises and cuts on different parts of the body
·         Missing or damaged possessions such as books, gadgets or devices
o   Bullies may steal their things if they find interesting, or break and damage their devices and books
·         Decline of their grades or loss of their interest in school and schoolwork altogether
o   Their inability to concentrate in class can also be caused by bullying and their loss of interest in school can be caused by the fact that the bullying is taking place in school
·         Avoiding social situations and interaction
o   They might run into someone who knows about the bullying and they would rather not face them
·         Loss of confidence and self-esteem
o   Can be caused by the name-calling and the spread of false or embarrassing information about them
·         Faking illness to skip school
o   Since the bullying takes place in school, they fake illnesses to avoid going to school
·         Changes in their eating patterns or habits
o   They might come home hungry since they don’t eat lunch to avoid the bully in the common or lunch area, or skipping meals with the family to avoid discussing school
·         Display of self-destructive behavior
o   Might be talk of running away from home, or making hints or talking about suicide.

Why don’t they ask for help?

They too have their reasons on why they don’t tell an adult about it. Some of the reasons are:
·         They want to take the control back, or they want to be able to handle the situation on their own. Telling an adult might make them, or might make others see they’re weak.
·         They feel too embarrassed or humiliated about the bullying. It is understandable they don’t want their elders or parents to learn of the names they’ve been called or the rumors spread about them, whether or not they are real. It can also be because they don’t want to be judged by those closest to them and seen as weak.
·         Bullied children can be socially excluded already, so they feel like nobody else will understand what they are going through.

What can you do?

It is helpful to talk to your child. Ask their friends if you think you can get more information that way. And always let your child know that you will be there to help and will support them no matter what.

*This is a guest post by Justin Estor and is for informational purposes only*